About me
I was born in 1974 to Cajun parents in Cadiz, Spain, at the U.S. Naval base there. My dad got custody of me when I was three, so I did not grow up in Louisiana. I have three half-brothers; one paternal, two maternal. I am divorced and have had two children, one of which is no longer legally mine, as his paternal grandparents adopted him the year after his dad and I broke up. The other was born in 2004, almost nine years after her brother, and lives with me and gets lots of time with her dad. I am not involved with anyone at this point, but I get along well enough with my little girl’s dad that it is easy to mistake us for involved. I’m not much interested in dating anyway, so it’s just as well.
I am a high school graduate, spent two and a half years in the U.S. Army, and completed a quarter of community college. I had been on the dean’s list but I think college reminded me too much of high school, I didn’t have a clear plan of what I would do with a college education anyway, and then my personal life sort of fell apart and I gave up on it. I don’t know at this point if I will go back. I don’t miss the Army, either, and I refuse to romanticize it like so many current and former servicemembers do. On the other hand, it is entertaining to realize that between being an Army vet and being a feminist, I am going to be called a babykiller no matter what company I keep.
I’ve struggled for a long time trying to find an identity that fits me. Not long ago I realized that in trying to find that, I was trying to declare what I am, or my state of being. Meanwhile I had not put nearly enough effort into doing, which probably explains why my life has gotten stagnant. Odd to realize that when for the last several years I’ve been around or in touch with people who are discontent with doing and wish to start being… something or other, I’m not sure what. If it works for them, great, but it’s causing me atrophy in more ways than one. I figure I have all the time in the world to be something but it doesn’t count for shit if I don’t do anything.
Also, I like lolcats. And dragon eggs. And Travian. A lot.
